A Better Marriage

Often women ask, “How do I have a better relationship with my husband. How can I get him to love the Lord and love me”?

I have learned a few key things, the hard way, that are right there in the Word of God:
                           You can’t fix him, but you can change you.
The Holy Spirit is the teacher (John14:26), not me.  Allow the Holy Spirit to teach you and he will do the same in your husband.

Put God first:
Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. Matt 22:37. Desire to be pleasing unto the Lord in ALL areas of your life, including your marriage. Walk in love!

Let go of the need to win:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,  James 1:19

*Listen- Be slow to speak and repeat what they are saying- so often we jump ahead and want to make our point, and we never hear their point.
We all need to be heard. When we make it our goal to hear our mate and desire to fulfill many of their needs, NOT ALL, then we come together in unity.
If you’re thinking, well he never does that for me.
I challenge you to do it first.
Be the first one to love.  God sees what you do in private!

*Slow to speak.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue. Prov 18:21
Speak or confess life over your marriage, even when you don’t see it in the natural. You get what you say (Mark 11:23-24).

*Forgive and let go of resentment.
Anger is the doorway for the enemy to come in. It is the breeding ground for resentment. Stop letting the enemy in.

*Pray: Give God your marriage and ask Him to unite you as one with Him.
Allow God to change your heart.
Being in God’s kingdom is a work of the heart, God changes us form the inside out.

 
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matt 6:33 equates to:

When we seek God first and get in right standing with Him, He works on our marriage.  This isn't just go to church on Sunday. It means allowing God access, to all areas of our life, and allowing Him to change our heart, into what is pleasing to Him.